Monthly Archive for April, 2008

Abuse Of Process

Here’s the TRO (Temporary Restraining Order) that was served on me a few days ago. Lauren got one exactly like it. I would have posted it sooner, but I couldn’t figure out how to redact text in Adobe Acrobat Standard and for good reason; you can’t. You need Acrobat Professional to redact. Huh.

Read this doc on Scribd: tro-4-16-08-REDACTED

A few highlights to note…

On page 4, in order to avoid paying a filing fee, Alan checks the boxes that say there have been threats of violence or stalking even though that isn’t mentioned anywhere else in any allegations he makes. That’s because there isn’t and never has been any threat of violence directed at him - he’s just worried that if people find out about this that it will hurt his business. But by checking the box about violence, he avoids a fee. So Alan Boxer once again lies in order to spend less money.

The only thing I’m being accused of is publishing stuff that mentions him and yes, I’ve done that. I have the right to do that not just under the law but by the decision of the judge in the original TRO case three years ago. The only thing we’re prohibited from doing is encouraging people to contact him - and we don’t do that.

I don’t see how this could be clearer - I’ve added some emphasis to the relevant bits.

Here’s a lengthy quote from the transcript where the judge gave his order…

With regard to your website, the Court prohibits the following;
You may not directly or indirectly encourage, solicit, invite, facilitate third persons to contact Mr. Boxer. At either his website, his e-mail, his residence, his business, or his telephone number.
You have to decide what that means, directly or indirectly.
Facilitating may be linking his website with your website. And so you have to be very careful, because if the natural consequence of putting that link in there is that people out there are going to go directly to his link and send him e-mails you may be in violation of this court order, because I think that the purpose for that is to annoy and harass him. You are not doing it for any other purpose.
This does not prohibit you from having a website in which you complain about your dad.

MISS STRANAHAN: Right.

THE COURT: I hate to use the expression “get over it”, because it’s not my dad so you don’t have to get over it. You are entitled to carry on in whatever lawful way you believe you can with regard to your dissatisfaction with him as a father. Okay? I can’t prohibit that under the free speech, you can write a book. You can go out in Central Park you can go out, what’s the main park in Las Angeles. You can sit on a soap box and you can tell everybody in the world what you think about your father and we could not prevent that.

But, you could not tell people on that soap box, and here his telephone number, call him. You couldn’t say, go to his website, here’s his website. Write to him. Here his e-mail address. Tell him what you think. That becomes an annoying, harassing conduct.

This order will be in place for 3 years.

More Than Money Trailer

Hello, World.

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Yesterday morning I heard boots coming up the stairs and before there was even a knock at the door I knew what was going to happen. There was a loud knock, I rolled my eyes at Lee and went to answer it. I opened it up to 2 smiling sheriffs holding packets of paper.

My father had Lee and I served with papers for another temporary restraining order hearing up in Marin County. The restraining order he’s had against us for the last 3 years is about to expire. Lee and I were ordered to stay a certain distance away from him, not contact him, stuff like that … which, we weren’t doing anyway. Alan wanted the blog I was writing shut down, but he didn’t get that.

Normally when you hear about restraining orders you hear about threats or violence or stalking, right? What is he accusing us of?

“Person to be restrained continues to harass via internet with the intent to destroy me.”

The phrase “intent to destroy me” sounds like dialog right out of a Scooby Doo episode. It’s very hard to convince a person who’s lived a life of selfish self-delusion that everything in the world isn’t all about them - but it’s not. My writing about this subject over the past few years is my attempt to figure out myself by figuring out my real history and what really happened with my father. Barack Obama did the same thing in his book Dreams Of My Father and he wasn’t doing it destroy anyone.

Specifically Alan’s upset that these documents were posted online, a handful of legal documents that show the legal trouble Alan has been in over the years due to his non-payment of my child support. They date back as far as 1972 and extend up to 1986. They were posted without comment. They are antiseptic legal documents but I think they tell you a lot about my childhood and my relationship with Alan Boxer.

Those documents were also posted as self-protection. Alan has spent a lot of time telling people, including multiple law enforcement agencies and the courts, that I’m crazy and that I’m a liar. He’s told them that he never was a deadbeat parent.

The reason those documents are public isn’t because I’m claiming he stills owes child support. They are public so that anyone who researches this issue has quick and easy access to the facts.

The documents prove he did owe child support and was a deadbeat over a long span of time. That is reality but even on his current papers he states that he is paid in full, so I’m defaming him by even daring to make public records available to the public.

Did he eventually pay all of his child support? Yes, he finally finished paying off his ridiculously low child support 3 years ago when I was 36 and after I’d started the blog. Give the man a cookie.

This is legal harassment by Alan. He’s filing false charges against us about an issue that a judge has already ruled on and forcing us to drive 600 miles to respond to it. You’re not supposed to be able to use the law that way, especially when the law isn’t on your side to begin with.

The problem Alan’s got with trying to stop my writing is that this has already been settled. A judge ruled on this 3 years ago and made it very clear to Alan that I have a 1st Amendment right to talk about what a lousy father he was. I can write on a blog. I can write a book. I can make a movie.

And guess what? I am!

527.6.b.3

Constitutionally protected activity is not included within the meaning of “course of conduct.”

Entitled

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