Yesterday morning I heard boots coming up the stairs and before there was even a knock at the door I knew what was going to happen. There was a loud knock, I rolled my eyes at Lee and went to answer it. I opened it up to 2 smiling sheriffs holding packets of paper.
My father had Lee and I served with papers for another temporary restraining order hearing up in Marin County. The restraining order he’s had against us for the last 3 years is about to expire. Lee and I were ordered to stay a certain distance away from him, not contact him, stuff like that … which, we weren’t doing anyway. Alan wanted the blog I was writing shut down, but he didn’t get that.
Normally when you hear about restraining orders you hear about threats or violence or stalking, right? What is he accusing us of?
“Person to be restrained continues to harass via internet with the intent to destroy me.”
The phrase “intent to destroy me” sounds like dialog right out of a Scooby Doo episode. It’s very hard to convince a person who’s lived a life of selfish self-delusion that everything in the world isn’t all about them - but it’s not. My writing about this subject over the past few years is my attempt to figure out myself by figuring out my real history and what really happened with my father. Barack Obama did the same thing in his book Dreams Of My Father and he wasn’t doing it destroy anyone.
Specifically Alan’s upset that these documents were posted online, a handful of legal documents that show the legal trouble Alan has been in over the years due to his non-payment of my child support. They date back as far as 1972 and extend up to 1986. They were posted without comment. They are antiseptic legal documents but I think they tell you a lot about my childhood and my relationship with Alan Boxer.
Those documents were also posted as self-protection. Alan has spent a lot of time telling people, including multiple law enforcement agencies and the courts, that I’m crazy and that I’m a liar. He’s told them that he never was a deadbeat parent.
The reason those documents are public isn’t because I’m claiming he stills owes child support. They are public so that anyone who researches this issue has quick and easy access to the facts.
The documents prove he did owe child support and was a deadbeat over a long span of time. That is reality but even on his current papers he states that he is paid in full, so I’m defaming him by even daring to make public records available to the public.
Did he eventually pay all of his child support? Yes, he finally finished paying off his ridiculously low child support 3 years ago when I was 36 and after I’d started the blog. Give the man a cookie.
This is legal harassment by Alan. He’s filing false charges against us about an issue that a judge has already ruled on and forcing us to drive 600 miles to respond to it. You’re not supposed to be able to use the law that way, especially when the law isn’t on your side to begin with.
The problem Alan’s got with trying to stop my writing is that this has already been settled. A judge ruled on this 3 years ago and made it very clear to Alan that I have a 1st Amendment right to talk about what a lousy father he was. I can write on a blog. I can write a book. I can make a movie.
And guess what? I am!
Just wanted to give you a shout out of support - looking back and telling the truth is never popular.
thank you, a little support goes a long way.
sounds like a great movie - just promise me you won’t water it down for a LIFETIME network type thingie